se/nder=my personal neologism for the sex-gender system, which Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick explains with a great clarity in The Epistemology of the Closet, as well as other critical works. i agree with her that these two terms are in a perpetual definitional crisis. therefore, i audaciously suggest to the world that we should try referring to them with one enjambed term, so as to more closely mimic reality with languge. it is my hope that the cell family would help to further erode se/nder issues (such as the notion that women are more nurturing), with which it would certainly be fraught in the eyes of the normative world. thinking about the ceremony, i can hear my mother now, how many bouquets will there be and who's going to throw them? to her, the whole event would be indecent, a subject my friend gilda addresses with far greater penetration than i could ever hope...